Socialising in the UK has a different flavour to it. There is something spontaneous, easy and unencumbered about gatherings and outings amongst friends in Nigeria, at least, from my experience. In the UK though, there is a feverishness and almost competitive tone to having what is seen as a packed and varied social life.

It is very common, and at first bizarre, to be consistently asked; ‘what are your plans for the weekend’. I have lived in the UK for 16 years and I still find that question odd. Growing up in Lagos, I don’t remember being peppered with that question every Friday. Part of it connects to the spontaneity of visits I have written about before which often eliminates the need for planning. You just saunter to your friends house casually without making a whole deal out of it. Lounging with friends on a breezy verandah, drinking a cold bottle of coke and crunching on cabin biscuits (if you know, you know) was a legitimate way to spend a weekend as was just chilling at home with family interposing chores intermittently.

In the UK, you are expected to plan your weekend in advance and these activities are usually expected to be out of the home setting. ‘Home’ during the weekend is almost anathema to the British soul.

People love listing their cool weekend plans almost as a brag. Therefore, when you are surrounded by people going partying, bowling, going to an exhibition or on a weekend getaway; responding to that question with ‘nothing’ is usually welcomed with a pause and a raised eyebrow.

The good thing, though, is that there is often lots to do in the UK especially in the bigger cities like London, Manchester and Birmingham. Even the smaller towns and villages usually have activities in the town hall, running groups, quilting circles or gaming crews.

Anticipating the question on weekend plans might as well be a prod to explore your new home country when time allows. Most towns and cities have websites listing all sorts of social groups you can join. Eventbrite is another website where local events can be found.

Building a community will be important to not feeling or being isolated in the UK!